How FairEnough™ works
Six steps. Appreciation first. A process designed so neither person has an advantage — and both walk away with a deal that feels fair.
Appreciate
Every session begins with what you value about each other. Not as a warm-up — as the foundation. When you start from a place of genuine appreciation, the harder conversations become possible.
Write what you admire, what you're grateful for, what you'd miss. Your partner won't see this until the mutual reveal — so be honest.
Request
Each of you privately lists 1–3 things you'd like the other person to work on. These are framed as requests, not complaints — a shift that changes the entire dynamic.
"Could you help more with bedtime routines?" lands differently than "You never help at night." FairEnough keeps the conversation constructive.
Rate Effort
Here's where FairEnough gets interesting. The person being asked rates how hard each change would actually be for them — on a scale of 1 to 10.
Doing the dishes might be a 2 for you but an 8 for your partner. That difference is the whole point. Fair doesn't mean equal — it means equal effort.
Reveal
Both lists and effort scores are revealed at the same time. Neither person gets to peek early or adjust their answers after seeing the other's. This is fairness by design.
The simultaneous reveal prevents gaming and creates a genuine "oh, I didn't know that" moment that opens real dialogue.
Trade
FairEnough proposes a balanced trade where total effort is roughly equal for both sides. You can accept, adjust, or negotiate further with smart suggestions along the way.
Trades balance total effort, not item count. If you're giving up something that costs you 7 effort points, your partner trades back 7 points worth — which might be a single 7, or a 4 and a 3, or any combination that adds up. That's the deal.
Track
After you agree, FairEnough helps you track how you're both doing. Regular check-ins celebrate follow-through and surface what isn't working — before it becomes a fight.
Schedule check-ins at a pace that works for you. Weekly, biweekly, or monthly — FairEnough sends reminders so nothing falls through the cracks.
Ready to start?
It takes 2 minutes to create your first session. Start with what you appreciate — the rest follows naturally.